A very interesting read by Nate Pyle, Confronting the Lie: God won’t give you more than you can handle.
I used to love this phrase, “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” It gave me strength. It ‘taught’ me that God is putting me through these sufferings because He knows I can handle it. But, the Bible never said it. These words were made by men, and God Himself have warned us that false prophesies will arise. So, what does the Bible have got to say about suffering?
For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers and sisters, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead (2 Cor 1:8,9,)
God told us that He put us through these sufferings, not because He knows we are strong. He made us suffer, because He wants to teach us to NEED him. When we feel that we can no longer take it, when we feel like we are desperately losing, when we feel sorrowful, helpless and weak, God wants us to wait on Him. He wants us to need him, and He is teaching us faith. He is teaching us that strength comes from above, and when all seems hopeless, we, as humans, can only wait. Wait in faith, knowing that our God is there, and although we will not receive an answer now (or never will), it is by His love and grace that He is putting us through this. Wait for Him to do something, to pick us up and to heal us.
I am not saying that we should lie around and wait. But it’s about having the peace in us, that while we struggle, we know He will come. It is about faith.
I am experiencing pain. This year isn’t exactly the best year of my life. 2012 ended bad, and 2013 started out worse. I honestly don’t know what God’s plan is for me. Sometimes, I question Him. I question myself- have I done something wrong? I haven’t got an answer from Him. Sometimes, I become impatient. God, what are You putting me through? I don’t know. But He is putting me through suffering not because He knows I can handle it, He is putting me through these, because He is building faith in me. He is making me strong. He is teaching me things I would never know about myself, and things I would never have been able to pull through, if not for our Almighty God.
I am not healed. I still need His healing hands. I don’t have the answers, I am still waiting. Sometimes, I get tired. Many times, I become disappointed and I feel like everyone around me is progressing, but not me. Everyone is realizing their dreams, but I am still stuck. I feel in despair. Maybe I made mistakes? Taken paths I shouldn’t have taken? Maybe I am just not cut out for it? God, why am I waiting? What are you keeping me from?
I don’t have the answers. I probably won’t have the answers tomorrow. Or the day after. I don’t know when will the truth be out. And it is very, very difficult to say this, but I am waiting. I am taking a step at a time, and I am waiting for God to show me His plan. Because it is His plans that will prosper me. He won’t harm me. So, although I am suffering now, although i feel so useless and hopeless, all I can do is put in my best efforts in what I am doing, and patiently, and faithfully wait.
God, I will question you. I will fail, because I am weak. I will feel lousy about myself, and insecure about so many things. I will disappoint you, because I am a sinner. But teach me to wait. Give me patience and faith. Faith that You will bless me with your grace.
I need You, Lord. I cannot do this on my own. After so many years, I am no where. I am lost. But You, my Shepherd, lead me to where I have to be.
Patience and faith. Amen.